donald went to work as usual on a regular monday night with plans to meet me at the doctor's office early the next morning. it was to be a routine appointment, and while this wasn't our first choice, we expected to have a conversation about potential induction dates later that week or early the next since there was no indication my body was gearing up for labor and my doctor did not want me to go past the due date because to my advanced maternal age. which incidentally is a delightful phrase to hear on a regular basis.
spoiler: it was not a routine appointment.
when we arrived my blood pressure was a little high and we were sent directly over to labor and delivery. the plan was simply for me to be monitored in triage for a few hours to rule out preeclampsia, but in a confusing and comical series of events i was instead taken straight to a delivery room. the staff was certain i was there to be induced and it took awhile to convince them otherwise. ultimately the monitoring showed i was fine and we were given the choice to go home and come back the next day to be checked, or to just stay and be induced. it is worth mentioning that donald had been awake for well over twenty four hours at this point. that was a strong argument for team 'let's go home'. on the other hand there was yet another big snow storm brewing, and much more importantly, i had already been stuck with an iv. it's probably important to know that i do not like needles. at all. so when i realized that if we went home i'd have to get the iv taken out and then get stuck again, i made up my mind. with the iv in my arm i was basically halfway through labor anyway, so i wanted to stay. and when you're the one having the baby, your vote counts twice.
once we made the decision to stay things progressed in what i can only assume was a very typical way. my body responded well to the medication to induce labor and things were moving along. throughout the evening i started feeling a little more uncomfortable, but i was surprised and honestly a little confused that i wasn't really in any pain. i alternated between walking the halls and sitting on the ball until it was late enough to go to bed. i kept asking when i should get the epidural and my nurse said i would know when it was time. when i woke up and couldn't to get back to sleep for an hour i decided it was time. those epidurals are marvelous things.
aside from a few interruptions, i slept soundly until my doctor showed up the next morning and told me it was time to push. donald's job was to support me by holding me up behind my shoulders during the pushing, and he was doing a great job. while the encouraging tone of the doctor and nurse indicated otherwise, there was not much actual progress being made and the people who knew that were settling in for a long labor. then, without consulting anyone, donald decided to see what would happen if he held me up by my lower back instead. and what happened is the baby came out. this surprised everyone, including the doctor.
they laid him on my chest and there was a flurry of activity as a bunch of people, who were also surprised by the sudden arrival, rushed to our room for various tasks. i was awake and alert for the first few minutes and remember donald standing up to cut the cord before suddenly feeling very, very sleepy. and this is where things got interesting. i laid back and closed my eyes as a second wave of activity flooded the room. the basic gist is that i had some significant tearing that a typical repair wasn't going to fix and i was losing blood fast. my blood pressure tanked and donald could only sit and watch as a scene from ER unfolded in front of him and they whisked me away.
i was groggy in the operating room, but still mostly aware of what was happening around me. this gave me the advantage of reading the voices in the room and recognizing that once the doctors got to work everyone seemed much calmer, which is how i knew i was going to be okay. unfortunately donald did not have the same luxury. i'm certain the whole ordeal was much worse for him as he was left alone in the delivery room with our son and very few updates over the next two hours. we did eventually make it in and out of recovery and into a regular room. ultimately i couldn't feel my legs for a day and a half, and my hospital stay was slightly longer than usual, but things otherwise went back to normal. in true dyer fashion we didn't settle on a name until almost two days later, but we finally got there and officially introduced jack marshall to the world.
